…Probably the most academic stuff I’ve written in my entire life (without counting university papers and lab reports). I was deeply fascinated by the views of Erich Fromm, and surprised that someone had the same things in mind concerning the subject so many decades before I was born.
For practical purposes, I’m a “reformist” objectivist, and to me, love is more than simple attraction. Love is about knowing there’s something you can learn every day from that someone, knowing that you can be a better person every day, and make that someone a better person. Love is not about possession, or a sense of belonging. Love isn’t about needing someone. Love is about knowing you don’t need anybody, but you just like and enjoy to share everything with someone.
Love isn’t about physical attraction. Those are evolutionary traits. Love is a deeper form of empathy.
The fact is that I don’t really know what the hell love is, and that’s why I’m open. To love an old friend, to love a complete stranger, to love someone I know and to love someone I don’t know anything about.
But before loving anyone else, be sure to love yourself first. Love yourself deeply to know you’re the only thing you need.
Let’s finish with a quote from Erich Fromm’s The Art of Loving:
“Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.” “
I’ll keep on writing.